You want your lover to do something for you and keep pushing
it until she snaps and says something around the lines of “Look i've been
working all day! I rarely have anyone to help me!..” She pulls away as you see
the distress in her face and voice. What should you do?
1. Don't get mad – Recognize that she's exhausted and
stressed out. Take the time to concern yourself with her emotional state at the
moment.
2. Be affectionate – She may shut down in fear that she may
have another outburst with someone else. Hold her in your arms and hug her,
kiss her, comfort her, tell her it's ok, dry her tears, etc. Tell her you love
her and assure her that nothing will come in between you both. Let her cry and
feel sad for a few minutes until she calms down. Re-assure her of your love by
being affectionate once more.
3. Listen to her – Take a moment to hear her problems with
herself or with life in general. Chances are negative emotions have built up
over time.
4. Take a load off her back – Apologize and make amends to
make her feel relieved. You may want to ask her what she'd like for you to do
to make her feel better. Offer to help her by taking a few things off her back
such as doing chores around the house while she takes a break.
Finally, be sure to practice healthy ways of coping with
stress and anxiety. Most of all, be supportive of your lover. She's not your
enemy. She needs you the most in difficult times.
