Behaviors that kill attraction

Many people male and female commit several mistakes when attempting to attract one another. These types of toxic attitudes are harmfully rooted in false beliefs of love, negativity, and selfishness. To be more successful, you must ultimately rely on your own ability to attract others. Be watchful of these attraction-killers: 

* Desperation - Looking for signals, constant contact with your crush, worrying about losing him or her, etc. are all signs of desperation. When you choose to be clingy, you decrease your chances of getting a date. People think that by constantly contacting a crush, they are increasing attraction but this is wrong. They are actually behaving out of desperation. Consider how your crush feels when you make him or her feel suffocated by your behavior. Any attraction that was once present quickly fades. Attraction takes alot of patience to build. To be successful, give your crush freedom. When you get to a point where you have confessed your feelings for one another, say something casual like 

You: "I'd like to take you out on a date sometime so we can have some fun, what do you say?" 

Crush: "Hmm...i'm not sure...." 

You: "Well...here's my contact info, let me know if your up for it.." 

After that, do not contact your crush at all. Give him or her time to come up with a decision. Gradually give your crush a little time and effort until you both can enter into a committed relationship. Fear is rooted in negative thoughts such as "what if i lose her? What if i do something wrong? What if she doesn't like me?" In reality, you are doing nothing wrong. It's only when you allow these negative thoughts to define you that you lose your attractiveness. The best option to take is to think positively and take comfort that everything's fine. If you lose her, you will still keep on living. Think of potential mates as a range of choices rather than focusing solely on one person. 

* Hiding your flaws - When you show dishonesty about who you are, you ruin your chances of a relationship. Sure, you may still lose her but at least you showed honesty. Your best option is to gradually reveal your flaws and explain how you are working to overcome them. If your crush accepts them, only then can a strong relationship form. 

* Selfish expectations - Expecting crushes to conform to your manipulative, controlling, and abusive behavior will automatically ruin attraction. You are not entitled to your crush. You are not even entitled to your spouse. Your admirer has the freedom and independence to leave you at any given moment. Love is not the source of pain, selfish expectations are. That being said, stop thinking about what you want and think about what is in the best interest of your crush. Be supportive at all times even if you don't end up together. Let go of selfish expectations and you will free yourself from unnecessary pain. 

Reflect on the types of behavior that might be causing you to ruin your attractiveness and correct them. Learning what not to do is as important as learning healthy boundaries to maintain in your interactions with others.