How to never be played again

If you clicked on this blog, you've probably been led on by guys or girls. You may feel angry, frustrated, depressed, sad, asking yourself "how can people treat me this way?" It's very easy to get into a negative cycle which is why i decided to write some tips that will help you break it. Being played hurts which is why you must channel negative energy into a positive and lively force. Stop making excuses for why you cannot date again. Stop using the mistakes of the past to define who you are now. Take a stand for what matters most to you. Take control of your life now and never be played again. When you are the one attracted to another person, here are steps you can take:

* Ask yourself: "Is he/she available?" - Players may already have a lover, work, school, or lack trust. Without trust, players cannot be emotionally available. Whatever the situation is, players won't make themselves available for commitment. It also depends on the types of people you chase after or allow in your life. If you find yourself accepting people who are unavailable for a relationship, look for those who are.

* Ask yourself: "How does he/she treat you and others?" - Does your crush present him or herself genuinely? Is your crush too perfect? If that's the case, your crush is probably hiding flaws he or she doesn't want you to know about. Does your crush constantly compliment you with insincerity? Call you names? Flirt? How does your crush treat those around you? If he or she gossips or disrespects other potential mates for fear of losing you, it's a warning sign. How will you know your crush won't ditch you as soon as they find another suitable partner? Players are looking for an ego boost. They want to feel desirable and will often look for a reaction from you without the intent of a relationship. If they neglect building a strong friendship, they are likely playing you.

* Stand up for yourself - Stop letting yourself be someone else's little play thing. Be assertive in what you will and will not tolerate. You control your own actions, not others. You can choose to deny any unwanted advances at any moment.

* Realize not everyone is going to lead you on - There are bad people in the world but there are also good people. Not everyone is the same. There will be people who won't lead you on. The key is to know where to look and how. If you feel insecure about who to trust, meet new people. You don't have to necessarily date anyone. Just seek simple friendships and go from there. When you realize there are many options available to you, the pressure to keep your guard up will disappear.

I hope that one day, you will remove toxic people from your life and be one step closer to finding your soulmate.