We may have grown up to believe that jealousy is a sign of love and it might be true to an extent, but jealousy can become hazardous to your health. If you keep making someone jealous, negative feelings and anxiety will creep in along with many other unwanted emotions. You have no idea what kind of person your dealing with. What's worse is that the person may be jealous because he/she is abusive in nature, not the loving partner you idealize. Pure jealousy can turn people into animals and i've seen it happen before. Guys/girls get violent and physically fight their rivals or simply kill them. It can cause people to hate each other and worse, cause people to change once comparisons are made. The person crushing on you may feel that he/she has to be colder, stronger, richer, talented, etc. to get ahead when it has nothing to do with that.
People can end up in a prison cell or a grave over jealousy if it isn't treated right away so what's the cure? Stop being needy. You cannot force someone to be in a relationship with you, so you should stop trying. There are many things in life that you cannot control and this is one of them. Let him/her exercise their free will and free yourself of paranoia because it has nothing to do with your self worth. In the meantime, be confident and secure in who you are as a person. If he/she says "..this other guy/girl treats me right.." brush it off and say "ok." Show him/her that you don't need them to be happy. If it's true love then the person will choose you in the end.
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