My friend broke up with his girlfriend after she posed topless for him online. He said that he was fed up with her excuses. It was then that i took influence on the types of people you should be cautious of drawn from experiences. I'm going to give some tips on the types of people you should not start a relationship with.
1. Someone with low self esteem - Do not go for someone who has problems with confidence. Do not fall for their pleas of needing a partner because they feel lonely. Do not fall for someone who is pessimistic either. These people have a problem with themselves that needs to be worked on otherwise they will drain the positive energy out of you. If they can't appreciate themselves, how will they appreciate you?
2. Someone who can't protect you - Does he/she protect you when your in trouble? If not, he/she isn't worth keeping. He/she won't be able to do it when you need it the most. You deserve someone who respects you enough to defend you.
3. Someone who is indecisive - Someone who doesn't know what he/she wants is someone you should absolutely keep at a distance. Nothing kills a relationship faster than someone who wavers between "yes" and "no" to everything. Chances are their character is very unstable.
4. Someone who flirts around - If you catch someone flirting with others, chances are they're not looking to be serious. How do you know they won't go for someone better? How do you know they're genuine and serious about you? Don't take these people seriously nor waste time on them.
5. Someone who does not commit - Back then, guys could do everything as the girl sat back. Now, times have changed. It's no longer ok for the wife to stay at home while the husband is the breadwinner. Love is earned, not given. A person can be spoiled only if he/she has earned those privileges. Anyone who isn't willing to work to keep you needs to just get out of your way. Don't mess around with an irresponsible kid.
6. Someone who's taken - It's ok to be attracted to another's boy/girl, but at tempting to take someone else's mate is serious. You and others could be killed over cheating, so don't do it!
7. Someone who can't explain themselves - If a person can't explain why they like you, there's a good chance it's infatuation or deception. Someone who can list your good qualities will likely be committed.
8. Someone obsessed over work/hobbies - Some have too much investments on things that they have no time for you. Realize these people are unattainable and move on.
9. Someone isn't honest - If a person has to hide behind signals vs. direct communication, that's a bad sign. If a person can't say what they want and how they feel, that shows alot (mistrust, lack of identity, etc.) and the relationship will end in a break up. How can you expect changes to be made if the person has chosen to hide their innermost feelings?
10. Someone with a bad reputation - While you should not care what others think of you, reputation does play a role if it's by several friends knowing your crush. If he/she is known for being unfaithful or has a criminal record, be cautious. Gain advice from friends and family. Talk to his/girl past lovers if any and see why they ended the relationship. Realize that if this person is abusive, violent, or has a severe mental disorder, you are responsible for the choice that you make. Anything that happens in the future will be based on your decision.
Watch out for these types unless they change. Even if they do, evaluate the pros and cons thoroughly. Until then, don't hit on them.
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