There is a huge difference between liking and loving a person. A crush on a particular person is still young and can feel wonderful, but there is a immature mindset for establishing a dating relationship based on your reasons for "liking" someone. These are just a few reasons why that is:
1) Attractiveness - Just because you are extremely attracted to a handsome man, does not mean he would make a good partner. A very beautiful and attractive woman does not mean that she has genuine intentions or an honest lifestyle. Beauty can be very deceitful. What if that person gets old? what then? Or what if they manipulate you by using their attractiveness for selfish reasons, not because they actually love you or care about you? Yes, attractiveness would make the relationship better, but it would be wise to listen to the saying "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."
2) Money and abilities - Perhaps the person you admire has a lot of money and can support you, but this is also not a good reason to date someone. There could be many reasons for them ending a relationship perhaps because of social status, fortunes, or simply because it was not built upon an appreciation for their person. It would be very hurtful to your partner if all you wanted was money and that could seriously destroy a relationship. Admiring someone because they can play sports very well, play music very well, or possess any other talents such as these is pleasant, but this doesn't prove that they are mature in other areas of life.
3) Superior intelligence - In this modern society, intelligence is becoming valued more than before, however i'll advise you to still be careful because intelligence alone can be quite dangerous. You put yourself at risk for dating someone with intelligence without also knowing more about their personality. Falling head over heels for someone who flashes their intelligence can be just as immature as falling in love with someone who is very attractive. Just because they are intelligent, doesn't mean they have the wisdom to treat you in the way that you should be treated.
Again, these are a few reasons why it is unwise to bond with someone without considering various qualities of their personality such as their behavior, honesty, and genuine love for someone else. In conclusion, i strongly advise you to take the time to examine their character thoroughly by listing different qualities to see if they are a potential mate for life. Only then can you know if you genuinely like them or if it's simply infatuation.
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