Perhaps you are one of the people who dream of finding prince charming who will treat you like a princess, rescue you from every situation, and do tons of chivalrous, romantic things for you. Maybe you are a man who desires to find a very beautiful woman to share all of your romantic poetry, thoughts, and ideas with. This all seems too good to be true..it is, because it's not true.
Hollywood, movies, films,novels, and the media have been teaching us how to live our love life and how love ought to be. Forget about prince charming because he's never coming for you, cast the dream of that perfect woman away because the outward beauty does not always match the beauty from within. No one is perfect and no one is going to treat you in every perfect way. Romance is simply a fantasy, something that only happens in the movies, that's not how relationships truly are. Fake romance is simply immature infatuation, but i learned that real romance takes time to develop.
Real romance is achieved by taking the time to learn about your partner's desires, passions, and joy. Creatively expressing genuine romantic feelings can create strong passion, but it is not the only thing which holds a relationship together. Too many times have i laughed and jokingly told my friends about the same old songs and flowery language coming from a guy who is trying to win a girl's heart back, why? Because it sounds so fake. If you exaggerate too much, you are only creating a false sense of love. Yes, it's nice to have a nice romantic dinner, candles, baths, and novels, but what good is it without mature love? These things are only decorations, traditions, and trends we sometimes think of as love when it's not. The true power of love comes through respect, commitment, compassion, loyalty, humility, compromise, joy, and intimacy as well. Romantic things such as these will not last forever. In the end, you will get tired of them, but love will renew intimacy with your partner and make passion strong .
Do not misunderstand me, i'm not saying that all romance is bad. It depends on how you use it correctly that can keep igniting passion as the love you share together matures. If your a man and seek to be romantic with your female partner, make sure your words genuinely align with your actions. If your a woman, make sure that your male partner is genuine and do not set unrealistic expectations which create the idea of being in love rather than actual love. Never replace beautiful artwork, flowers, decorations, food, places, novels, etc. with your partner's honest feelings, admiration, respect, sacrifices, respect, kindness, and love that they have for you.
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