Don't get on your knees for a man/woman

In our society, we're obsessed with the idea of falling for a special someone. We crave the idea of having someone to live for. Someone to share our experiences with and someone waiting for us back home. Someone to kiss and give affection to. We desire the idea of love and accomplishing a successful relationship. We want to make the people we romantically love our everything. We want to reveal our every weakness to them and be weak in the knees for their love.

The problem is that we become weak, desperate, and crippled when we throw ourselves over them. Our reasoning becomes unstable, our emotions run wild, and our self control is diminished. We easily fall into delusion that there's hope of a beautiful romance till we're cut out of their lives before we know it. We're shut out of their minds and told that it was only a phase. Suddenly we're sitting in the dark corner of our minds asking "Why? What did i do to deserve this?" We're broken down and guilty. We drown in self pity and regrets.

This is how our failed relationships end up or at least for most people. We profess to our love "Your my everything!" but it's a lie. We all know very well we've had many ex-lovers/crushes whom we repeated the same lines. We still fantasize about that attractive person in our school, workplace, neighborhood, or any other place while being taken. We live for others like family and friends. We live for our passions, interests, and dreams. No lover can be your everything as it is impossible for someone to provide every need.

How do i know all this? Because i've experienced it. I've invested so much in girls only to end up with nothing. I've wasted so much time, energy, efforts, resources and i'll never get it back. When i let my desires overcome reason, i became weak. When we make someone perfect than they really are, we fall into an illusion that they can give us everything. They're just as lost and fallible as we are. Many hide it very well and use it to get what they want. Your existence goes on regardless of a girlfriend or boyfriend validating you.

With that in mind, never lose yourself in another human being. He or she just might be the one who betrays you sooner or later. You have so much to live for than a relationship. Don't surrender opportunities, freedom, and so many more things all for a lover. If someone really values your trust, he or she won't expect you to fall over like any other lover. He or she will walk by your side to accomplish the same dreams. There won't be any unequal balance between one or the other. Don't let a woman or man you fancy define you let alone dictate your life.