Why singleness is underrated

In this society, singleness is a disease. It's a horrid curse. If you are single, you are automatically ostracized, teased, and shamed. Despite what people think, singleness is not what others believe. Being single, i found certain falsehoods on singles:

"Singleness means your alone"

Singles value friends and family. Just because someone is single, doesn't mean he or she is alone. When someone believes that because he or she lacks a relationship and is lonely as a result, he or she believes in a lie.

"Singleness means you know nothing about love"

Singles love their families and friends. There are many forms of love. The love for friends and family are just as powerful as the love for a mate.

"Singleness means you can't get dates"

While that might be true for some with inner conflicts, it doesn't represent all singles. Some are just too preoccupied with their lives (career, passions, goals, etc.) to be focused on relationships. Some see themselves as too good for them anyways.

That being said, i find that singles are generally more attractive than married people. Why?

Singles are independent - While some singles don't realize this, others do. They don't need a boyfriend/girlfriend to validate them as a person. They influence their own judgments, thoughts, decisions, behavior, and life without having a lover on their back. They have so much to live for than just a relationship.

Singles are available - When someone has a bf/gf, many people loss interest. This can be due to morals, lovers, and many other reasons. Singles are attractive because they're available. When it comes to singles, many people are in competition against each other. Singles looking for a relationship can be selective on who they date.

Singles aren't as vulnerable as couples - Singles don't have to worry about commitment or problems common in relationships. Singles don't have to worry about losing their partner. When you emotionally and financially invest in another person, you become vulnerable. Frustration, jealousy, anger, sadness, and other feelings are the result of that vulnerability.

Singles have total unrestrained freedom - If you get in a relationship, you lose alot of freedom. You can no longer choose to go out with your friends because you must spend time with your lover. You can't talk to the opposite sex like you used to. You may have to give up your favorite hobbies or interests. You must always make time and sacrifices for your significant other. You may not even be able to live your former life. Singles don't need to deal with all of this. They can live their lives in any way they wish without having to worry about putting someone else in their schedules.

Singles can do more for the world than couples - I'm an artist and a writer with alot of ambitions. I have alot of goals and made many interesting accomplishments. I could not have accomplished if i had to worry about a partner. There are many singles who have contributed so much to the world but go unrecognized compared to couples.  

In summary, being single is not a curse only when one believes it to be so. Being single has many benefits as opposed to a relationship. Nevertheless, many people in our society see singleness as something to lose than gain. Singles have alot of power and potential than they realize. Singleness is something to celebrate. If more people embraced singleness then we would have less problems with self esteem and insecurities. Singleness can be a means of achieving confidence.