We've all heard that the friend zone is the most terrible to be. If you get friendzoned, expect to be labeled a loser in need of advice. This is flat out wrong. Many people think of dating as if it were a game they play with all the right moves to achieve their goal. When they get "friend-zoned", they automatically think they did something wrong. This is an immature and naive mindset. Some people put others in the friendzone for many reasons. So many people fall in and out of destructive relationships because they don't understand the value of a friendship. Being friend-zoned has many benefits:
* You have time to know each other - When you have a crush on a person, you tend to forget about many things (their flaws, interests, etc.) You just rush in and date them, hoping for a successful relationship. If the relationship lacks comparability and understanding, the relationship is doomed. When your in the friend-zone, you have time to see who the person truly is.
* Your less likely to be fooled - Trying to date people at a bar or club isn't wise. You don't know what kind of person your getting into. They could be anyone: A sex offender, an abuser, a cheating spouse, a player, etc. By choosing the friend-zone, you choose to stay safe. People who intend to play you are less likely to stick around if you put them in the friend-zone. If you lose friends, it won't hurt as much as if it were a broken relationship.
* There's no pressure - When you like someone, you are pressured to turn him or her into a date. This can be very discouraging if you get rejected. By choosing the friendship route, you remove that pressure almost completely. You can continue to know that special person without having something to prove. If he or she loses attraction to you, it's not your fault. If you have a crush on someone, you can keep it a secret and no harm will be done. If you lose attraction, it's also not your fault. It simply means it was only a temporary crush.
* You have time to assess the person - When your in the friend-zone, you have time to decide whether or not you want to date a person. Furthermore, you have time to decide if your potential partners are worth-while friends. Are they honest? Are they trustworthy? Are they loyal? Or do they impatiently waiting for you to ask him or her out? People can be selfish so by weeding them out, you remove the negative people out of your life.
Long lasting attraction takes time to build so it might as well start in the friendship. The friendzone draws the focus away from the idea of love and into knowing a person. Many people don't understand the value of friendship hence why we have many failed relationships. People's expectations hurt them because they're only thinking of themselves. When we stop expecting people to go out with us, we free ourselves from the pain of rejection.
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